How to Heal a Broken Heart

         We love. And because we love, we also get hurt. Whether a simple fight with a loved one, relationship break ups or even just a one way love; it all results to a BROKEN HEART :-( . When we love,everything seems to be perfect. But not everyone is given a perfect love story on the spot. Sometimes, we have to experience different struggles in order to find the real one and experience the perfect one.

          Being in the broken stage is the hardest part in loving. Sometimes we ask ourselves "How  could we able to revive ourselves again?" To become whole  again, no one can help yourself except Y-O-U. Broken hearted? Based on my own experience, here are my nine ways to heal a broken heart.

1. CRY. The pain is us and so we have to release it. This is the hardest stage yet the easiest way to release all the pain and aches you are feeling. Reminisce your happy moments together and how you and him/her met, recall your sweet conversations, reread his/her undeleted text messages in you inbox and chat messages while listening to your favorite heartbreaking songs, then CRY, CRY and CRY.

2. EAT. Some people in times of stress focus themselves on foods. Eat!....especially sweets. This is your best friend this time. Sweets like chocolates contain serotonin which acts as an ant-depressant and stimulate endorphin production which gives a feeling of pleasure.

3. ACCEPT. He/she is not with you anymore. Let us face the fact that what is happening right now is not the same as before. Yes, you are still in the "hoping stage" this time that maybe he/ she will be back. You are still holding your phone and waits for his or her texts or be online in Facebook...But does your waiting and wishing helps you lessen the pain? Wake up friend! You are wasting your time! One of the best lessons in life is that we learn that we can't have everything we want. But what holds us to live is the faith that if something is taken away, God will surely replace something or someone better, someone deserves you love and the love you deserve too. For my co-women, if the person you love stopped pursuing you, it means he isn't worth of your love and YOU! You are precious. You must be loved the way you deserve.

4. LET GO.  Okay, fine, he/she is now gone and you already accepted the fact the he/ she won't come back.. but still, you can't get over him/her. Let it go my friend. Let go of the things that reminds you about him/her. Your phone beeps. It means someone is texting you. Before you open your inbox, you are praying his/her name will appear. You open the inbox and your are disappointed that what you uttered inside your mind is the other way around. Why not delete his/her number in your contacts, unfriend him/her in Facebook and unfollow him/her in Instagram and Twitter. No matter you already memorize his/her number after you deleted it, atleast you won't be able to see his/her name appear in your messages and contacts and see his/her status and pictures everytime you log in. It will lessen the pain you know.

5. MAKE YOURSELF BUSY. One of the effective way to forget bad experiences is to keep yourself busy. Do something that will inspire you. Engage in activities you love. Learn something new. In this way, you will realize that there is more to life than crying and waiting for him/her.

6. BURN OUT. Remember step number 2 that you eat, eat , eat because of your stress with him/her? Burn everything that turned into fats. Just like step number 1, we have to release the heaviness we feel emotionally and physically. Not only you will feel good but you will also look better. Jog. Play a sports. Do pilates or yoga and say hello to the new you! =)

7. CUT YOUR HAIR. You are new right now. Let your hair symbolize your newness. Go to your favorite salon and let the hairstylist do the hairstyle different from the way your hair used to be.

8. SMILE AND MEET NEW PEOPLE. Hello new (insert your name here)! You are now different from they used to know. You are now stronger person and ready to love again. Remember, your smile is not limited for him/her. There are lots of people who deserves you smile too. Besides, there are number of reasons why we have to cheer up.

9. CONTINUE PRAYING. In Psalm 37:4, it says "Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart". Pray for the right person to come. And if one day you experience being broken again, you know already how to heal your broken heart. :-)